"Don't be discouraged. It's often the last key in the bunch that opens the lock. " ~ Unknown



Is there something in your life that you are quitting on?

Giving up on?

Quitting before you have really given it a fair shot.

Are you walking away from your dreams?

Are you consoling yourself by saying any or all of the following?

I'm too old, too young.

I just don't have the time.

I'm not good enough.

I don't have the right qualifications.

I have no experience so who will listen to me?

I'm afraid that people [family, friends, colleagues will laugh at me if my work isn't good enough].

I don't understand any of this new technology, it's just too much, and it changes rapidly.

I'm confused about how to progress; it's just all too overwhelming …, That’s it ... I had enough!



"When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place." ~ Unknown


If this is true, then it is heartbreaking because all of these feelings, these concerns can be addressed and solved. There is an answer for everything, sometimes all you need is the right information. It is simply not true that you are not enough. All it means is that you just don’t have the right information to base your decisions upon and consequently you can feel overwhelmed by many or even all of the above symptoms.


The simple truth is:

• You are never too old or too young; if someone says this to you then you are speaking to the wrong person. Look for someone else.
  
  
• Not enough time; this is all about time management. Time management is a skill that you can learn.
  
  
• Qualifications; another skill that you can learn and is closely aligned with the skill of time management.
  
  
• No experience; again you are speaking to the wrong person; you seek out people who support you not take from you.
  
  
• Fear of failure; a universal feeling, you are not alone in feeling this but planning and goal setting can help get you on your feet and help overcome this, and these skills will then enable you to refocus.
  
  
• The opinions of others; those who you think would laugh at you. Take note of the people who support your dreams and the people in your life who support your aspirations. These people are leaders, managers, and proactive positive people. The people who negate you think small, think local and it reflects their own thinking not yours. In these instances set clear boundarieswith family members and friends and remember it is only their opinion, you can choose to accept or reject it.
  
  
• Understanding and using technological advances; again this is just about being open to learning new information and skills.
  
  
• Being confused and overwhelmed; all this is, is doubts-doubting yourself and your dreams.
  
  
  
  To change your mind or your point of view from “That’s it … I’ve had it, to that’s it … I get it!”

You need

• Desire,
• Willingness to learn new skills, strategies, outlook,
  
• Persistence.

When you have the desire of wanting to have your dream life, dream health, dream family, dream relationships, dream career etc you’ve got to really, really want it, then be prepared to do whatever it takes and not give up until you get it.

You can be whatever you want to be but you must be clear about your dream. When it gets challenging you must be able to see the finishing line because this helps you to focus and refocus your strength, to redouble your efforts to get over the little obstacles that you will encounter. These obstacles are merely stepping stones to your dream.

Chart your own course to success, keep your direction clear; surround yourself with people who support and encourage you and above all dream big.

"Never give up on what you really want to do. The person with big dreams is more powerful than one with all the facts." ~ Unknown


Mary Jo x

False Evidences Appearing Real.

What is the nature of your fears?

Where do they come from?

Can we get rid of them?

Why have they so much power over us?

Ponder these questions in the light of your own individual experiences and then read these quotes on the nature of fear.

I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration . I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain. F. Herbert

You are frightened of everything? You call it caution. You call it common sense. You call it practicality. You call it playing the odds, but that's only because you're afraid to call it by its real name, and its real name is fear. M. Farren

To him who is in fear everything rustles. Sophocles

fear keeps you small and not in your power but in the power of others.

No passion so effectually robs the mind of all its powers of acting and reasoning as fear. E. Burke

Fear is the main source of superstition, and one of the main sources of cruelty. To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom. Bertrand Russell

The whole secret of existence is to have no fear. Never fear what will become of you, depend on no one. Only the moment you reject all help are you freed. Buddha

There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life. J. Lennon

Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free. J. Morrison

We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light. Plato

I must say a word about fear. It is life's only true opponent. Only fear can defeat life. It is a clever, treacherous adversary, how well I know. It has no decency, respects no law or convention, shows no mercy. It goes for your weakest spot, which it finds with unnerving ease. It begins in your mind, always so you must fight hard to express it. You must fight hard to shine the light of words upon it. Because if you don't, if your fear becomes a wordless darkness that you avoid, perhaps even manage to forget, you open yourself to further attacks of fear because you never truly fought the opponent who defeated you. Yann Martel - Life of Pi

How do you define fear?

Where is fear showing up for you in your life?

The first step in healing your fears is to become aware of their presence.

Once you acknowledge their presence then you can identify if what you fear is actually real-only you know what is true for you.

Make a list of your current fears and see how real they actually are.

Eg. Fear of flying, Fear of the dark, fear of spiders, water, open/closed spaces etc.

Try taking the first step this week in challenging one of your fears, even if you only acknowledge its existence and then explore its roots. Have courage that this fear in itself does not have any power to hurt you only your thinking makes it so.

Fear is always in the dark, and when you shine the light on them they like the darkness disappear.

Mary Jo x

Today if you are not where you want to be in your life then someone or something is holding you back?

What is this something?

Who is the someone?

“ ....there is no obstacle you cannot surmount, no challenge you cannot meet, no fear you cannot conquer, no matter how impossible it may seem.” Erin Brockovich

Do you have a vision of where you want to go in your life?

“The only way to discover the limits of the possible is to go beyond then into the impossible.”

If you do not have a vision for your life then all roads will take you to your destination.

There comes a point in your life when you have to take control in order to get the results that you are searching for. When you take this first step of being in your own power then you become more aware of all the opportunities that exist to help you reach your destination. Remember to “Never grow a wishbone, daughter where your backbone should be.” Clementine Paddleford 1900

Create the best vision you can for the life that you truly deserve.